Walking Beside Them

Walking Beside, Not Carrying

A coach once shared something that stopped me in my tracks.

You know - those truth bombs 💣 that land in the center of your chest and force you to listen?!

When I tried to carry my daughters’ pains, I wasn’t taking them away - I was multiplying them exponentially.

My desire to “hold” the pain did not remove it from her shoulders. It doubled it. 

Something deep inside of me shifted. 

I wasn’t meant to carry it all. Even for my kids.

I was asked to walk beside them. 

To let them know they weren’t alone.

To find the support I needed - while remaining steady and present.

Making Space for Both Pain and Growth

We were never promised an easy life. And as much as I dream of that sometimes, I know the challenges are what have created me. 

The stretching has given me depth.

There is always a gift in … even in struggle. Diamonds are exposed through pressure. A butterfly is born because it dissolves first then expands.

I am learning to hold growth and pain in the becoming.

Who Are You Becoming?

This year I am leaning into becoming the woman who walks in fierce confidence and trusts herself deeply. 

For me this means:

Knowing when to speak.

Knowing when to remain quiet.

Asking for support.

Knowing when to step in … and when to stand beside.

Showing up even when I want to hide.

This year kicked off with a BANG in my world. And I am still figuring out how I want to share that journey. Truthful in a way that I experienced it.

Honest in what is being revealed to me.

In a way that  honors and respects the boundaries of the people also a part of the story.

It’s the fine line I’m learning to walk and honor. Authentically.

So, let me ask you the question I have been asking myself: 

Who are you becoming this year? 

Not who do you need to be for everyone else.

Not who you think you’re supposed to be.

But who do you desire to be? And how can you take one step closer to her?

I am inviting you to create your own I am becoming a woman who… statement.

Let it be your guiding star. Your Anchor and direction.

The quiet return to yourself.

And if you’re willing and brave - share it with someone you trust. Out loud - give it breath and life.

There is something empowering and strong in being witnessed in who you are becoming.

Remember this mama: 

You don’t need to hide behind the smile.

You don’t need to overshare.

You do get to honor your truth and respect the people you love. Both can exist.

And remember - I am in it with you

Also …buckle up because I have a feeling this year is going to be pretty amazing.

We are not disappearing anymore!

With much love,

Caryn